It’s All About Choices…
But Who’s in Charge?
It’s Monday morning. In front of you is the list of Things to Do that you wrote last night. At the top of the list is:
- Start diet/exercise program
- Business activities
- Personal tasks
- Calls to make
- Meetings to attend
- Family to care for, and more.
Your head swims. You don’t have time to do everything on the list. You’re hungry and grab a muffin to eat in the car with your coffee. You’ll exercise later. Another week is off and running.
At the stop sign you hear voices in your head. “You need to do this! You didn’t do that! Turn left! No turn right!”
Your head becomes a Tower of Babel and you want to runaway – Now!
What’s going on? Within each of us there are many sub-personalities who hold beliefs and concepts about life. Different personalities show up at work, at home, at play.
Although we know what is important, there are often parts-of-us who hold opposing beliefs about the advantages of our goals. We collect these beliefs from family, friends, books, movies and the ever present media.
So what can you do?
Talk to them.
When a part-of-you gets upset and out of control and won’t let you accomplish your goals, take a moment to talk to that sub-personality and ask, “What it is doing for you?” The part-of-you that is holding you back always think they are helping you – even though they may be tearing you apart.
Make it a game. Put the part that wants a certain thing or way of life on one hand. Put the one who thinks it is better to stop the flow and keep things as they are on the other hand. This way you can see that your total self is not upset. You act as mediator. (It’s okay to talk to ourselves these days – no one will notice. They’ll think you’re on your cell phone).
Take the time to help these different parts of you find a resolution. See how they can work together. You can learn to relax and enjoy life. It’s a start.
Verlaine Crawford is author of the book, Ending the Battle Within. She has taught seminars around the world and has helped individuals, celebrities and organizations to reach their goals. She is available for personal and business consulting. For more information, contact Verlaine.